The dating world can be pretty frustrating when you’re unable to tell if a guy you’re with likes you or not. To make matters worse, when you like a guy, usually you see what you want to see. In other words, you’re not the best judge of how much he likes you because you want to believe that he likes you and will decipher his behavior accordingly.
Here are some tips to help you figure out if a guy likes you:
Ask yourself, and be honest, who initiates communication between the two of you more often? If he initiates most of the communication, there’s actually a pretty strong chance he likes you. However, if it’s like 50:50 or you initiate the majority of conversations, watch out.
Try the No Contact Test. Do not contact him whatsoever until he contacts you. If it takes him longer than a couple of days to say anything to you, there’s a very high probability that he’s just not that into you.
If you’re dating a guy who has a peculiar habit of not wanting to introduce you to any of his friends, there’s a good chance you’re just a glorified booty call to him. If he seems to keep you at arm’s length from the rest of his life, he is probably using you for sex and doesn’t have any real interest in you.
Do You Feel Respected?
Another warning sign for a guy who is just not that into you is if he doesn’t seem to respect you. In other words, if he takes little active interest in how things are going in your life or adopts a smug personality around you as if he’s better than you, he’s not interested. When a guy is into a woman, he will care about her and the things going on in her life.
What Not to Look For
There are a few things that you might think are indicators as to whether or not a guy likes you, but in reality are just mixed signals.
The biggest one is sex. Men do not need to have feelings for a girl in order to sleep with her. Women make this mistake all the time. They sleep with a guy too soon and then assume it means that he has feelings for her. Nope. You might just be something physical to him.
Another big one is just because he refers to you as his friend doesn’t mean he’s not interested. Many guys have figured out the power of calling a woman their ‘friend’ first as a method to eventually build attraction that leads to sex. So just because a guy refers to you as his friend doesn’t mean he’s not interested. If anything, it could very well mean he is interested!